I find that in Japan, it's less about "ugly bastards" doing the NTR, and more anout "blond bastards" doing the NTR. Well, former does with money and power or cheats, but latter does with talent, social skills, or looks, and for the average loser, that's more unacceptable and hurts their soul more, because that doesn't feel as bad as being incompetent and inadequit as a man, which is more delicious and good